Since I wrote my blog post addressing the consistent search terms of paralyzing fear and depression, these terms keep (re)appearing in my search stats.
I’ve tried to find some really helpful articles about this issue, but have discovered only woo-woo stuff discussing about coming into the “light” and other bullshit feel-good stuff , Dr. Phil-syle, which is useless to anyone who is, duh, paralyzed with fear and exhausted by life. If anyone reading this post has constructive and on-point suggestions, they are most welcome.
I’m not sure my first post in particular, or even my more recent one with my psychologist friend’s input, are totally helpful for someone who is sick and tired of life, or in a horrible, painful place, but at least here, on this blog, they can find fellow/sister travelers.
As disconcerting as it all is, I’m glad folks have a place to land to find out they are not alone.
I have never been paralyzed by fear and depression, but please tell me if this would be helpful. I would want a loved one to tell me this is happening. I think sometimes people feel they can’t share it or are even too exhausted to share it. If you have a loved one who would be helpful, perhaps telling them would allow you to work on it together. Could they take some of the daily life burden from you until you are better (taking care of the house, kids, etc.) Could they help do research to find a good therapist, assist you in keeping appointments? I’m not trying to be simplistic, but I believe loved ones want to help and having someone else take on whatever they can might free a little bit more of a person’s limited energy to focus on getting better.
I think your suggestion is a good one, but there’s a lot of shame in feeling overwhelmed. We’re just “supposed” to function normally in this fucked up world both with and without atypical neural whatevers (some new-fangled term for mental illness and neurological disorders). And, I think there is so much searching online with these terms b/c folks (loved ones) actually don’t understand and also do not know how to help even if they are compassionate.